Is there an age limit to love?

SheiK · 02-07-2007

Well, Fife and I were earlier having this discussion. I'm bringing up to the table.

Although I'm currently engaged in a relationship with someone who is in my same grade, I've been wondering what the "age limit" of love is.

One of my close buddies has been tackling going out with someone in the grade below ours. He's unsure right now.

Obviously, our society has dating someone younger than you in the same sense of pervertion. Now this is especially apparent in my young years as a teenager. It usually just feels wrong to ask a younger person to go out with you.

We've seen it happen numerously in history, where adults with nearly 20 year differences have had sexual relationships. It seems right there.

But when you go down to our stepping stones, like I said, it feels...awkward, or even unnatural so to speak.

In my opinion, I don't believe that love is limited to those who are your same age, but it is rather that love is the special bond of two, regardless of "what" you are. Love binds two that know "WHO" they are, as individuals and personas.

It really seems to break down into human psychology.

FIF3 · 02-07-2007

Hmm, I think it's kinda creepy to see any kids in elementary "going out". I also find it surprising they know what that means!

But when you see kids around junior high and up, it's not as creepy and awkward to see, as you know they may be going through puberty.

That's all just my opinion though...

Exiled Bandit · 02-08-2007

I find an age limit if someone who is older going out with someone about 5 through enough years younger than them (Mother and Ashley as a fine example), but people around the same age or older (say 1-4 years older) is just fine. And I don't see what's wrong with elementary kids feeling "love" towards one another, as long as they don't say "I'm going out with him/her" or "I'm his/her bf/gf".

pureFEVER · 02-08-2007

This is a touchy subject. Imo love sees no age but that doesnt mean that it should be accepted at all ages. Sure a 50 year old can fall in love with a 17 year old but that doesnt mean its approperate for them to act on it. I think that in younger people well under 21 anyway can fall in love with any age, but some relationships should be thought into before hand. As for example if there is going to be sexual relationships or a familys outlook on the whole thing. I think all things should be taken into consideration before starting a relationship with someone of a huge age difference. Even though I greatly believe that there is no age limit on love, I do believe there is an age limit on how serious relationships get and how intimate they get. In my person opinon I think someone should wait until they are at least around 18 to get engaged, now I wouldnt never go for this but in general I dont disagree with it. I just think that you have to mature enough to settle down with someone for the rest of your life.. and even if you are a really mature kid.. you have to have time to grow first. Now in my perfect world I believe that people should wait at least until after high school and when they either start college or start a job. Because you around that time you get responsiblities and you have to learn to grow up more. Marriage should be something taken very seriously and its not a walk in the park like everyone thinks. Something else I whole heartly believe in is that you have your WHOLLLE life to spend with someone, so why should you rush into marriage. You can just as easily stay in a very serious relationship with that person and find out EVERYTHING about them before plunging into it. (You may think you know everything about a person but you often dont) And then when you've been together for a long time everything will fall into place. After all what is a piece of paper when your with someone? These are all just my opinons on the subject soo dont get all mad if you dont agree. lol

Mofogo · 02-08-2007

As far as high school goes, I dont think its wrong to date someone a grade below you, or above you or even two grades different. The high school mentality is that there is a hierarchy of sorts with different levels of "coolness" pertaining to your grade level. It also has to do with the maturity of your friends and whether or not they are buttheads and make fun of you.

Once you leave highschool, the whole mentality kind of dissolves to where it doesnt matter what age you are, because hopefully you have matured enough to be on the generally same level. I would say its generally bad on a gap say b/w a freshman and a senior, because sometimes freshman tend to get wrapped up in the "oh, im going out with a senior, im badass now" thing.

To what fever said, Im definitely with the whole waiting until youre out of high school and all that. I started dating my current girlfriend just before the start of my senior year and we've been together almost 5 years now. I have no intention of getting married before I graduate college, as I feel it would be a large distraction to my studies. I would also like to get settled down with a good paying job so that if/when we would get married, we could live in a nicer place and establish ourselves. Also at this length of time for relationship, I can definitely tell that we get along as we almost never fight. Sometimes it can take a good six months for people to truly become settled with each other and truly open up.

Ok Im done. mmm...buddy sex----->

GoatLove · 02-08-2007

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Originally Posted by Dr. SheiK

We've seen it happen numerously in history, where adults with nearly 20 year differences have had sexual relationships. It seems right there.

Yeah....because both people are mature enough to have a relationship......but if a 25 year-old dates someone 20 years younger.....no, thats wrong,hahaha. The five year-old doesnt know what he/she got themselves into. When both people are mature enough to know its right...then yes...age difference is fine....most of the time. I dont think a mature 13 year old should date a 90 year old....the 13 year old should wait till they are 18(at least) so they can finish school without distractions....then if it still seems right....well...whatever floats your boat/tips your bucket.

Brutal Verde · 02-08-2007

Im surprised nobody mentioned me and Chris ... its 5 years difference between us, I am in HS and he is in college. Ive never been happier. In my opinion, the age difference doesnt matter. My mom is 9 years younger than my dad. if you think about it, my dad was in HS when my mom was 1st grade ... It all depends on the chemistry between two people. You cant do much about it. If you love somebody, Im sure you will not think about age

ZafierX · 02-08-2007

U are engaged?

or u just in a relationship?

or ur enganging in a relationship???!

SheiK · 02-08-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by ZafierX

U are engaged?

or u just in a relationship?

or ur enganging in a relationship???!

Uhm...in a relationship. lol

I Snix I · 02-08-2007

I think its fine in high school since the maturity level is higher, but not when someone in the graduate year is dating a freshman just because the fact in like 2 years it will be illegal for that graduate student, so it pointess then, so basically date the same age in highschool until you are an adult then who cares.